Wreck-It Ralph wrote:I only told part of the story earlier and thinking about it during the night I think what happened on rebelscum a couple of months ago is what sent me spiralling downwards. I had a post on rebelscum for a lot of Rare items not really expecting anyone to respond. A couple of weeks later I get a PM from a guy called Jim claiming to have for sale the first 12 figures on 30 Back, the first 12 figures on 45A, a Palitoy VCJ and a 30 Back Fett for sale. Although excited at the prospect of buying these figures as some of them are not meant to exist I also felt sick as I realised to buy them would mean spending in excess of a six figure sum. He later told me that he had decided to keep the first 12 30 backs and the 30 Back Fett and he was going to sell them to his friend. He said the first 12 45A's were still available and the Palitoy VCJ which I never received any pictures of. I am not sure what this individuals motives were but his actions certainly had a negative effect on my collecting Journey.
Moving forward I am still going to collect what I have been collecting even though the cost of it does take some of the enjoyment out of it for me. I am also going to improve my knowledge and try and be more involved in the community which hopefully will make the collecting Journey more enjoyable for me.
Kudos to you for your honesty. I really hope you manage to find a level of collecting that you are comfortable and happy with, and which you can afford. I have no idea whether you are in debt because of your purchases, but if you are, please listen to sense and stop. Debt can easily ruin a person's life, and no collection is worth that.
Regarding your Rebelscum experience, yes it certainly sounds like the person that sent you the PM was at best winding you up, and at worst trying to scam you. I suppose it's technically possible that he had all of those things he offered you, but it does seem incredibly unlikely. Considering how much most of those would fetch at auction, where all the rich collectors in the world are free to have a go at buying them, why would he offer them to just a single buyer (unless of course he also massively took the piss with his proposed prices)? If it seems too good to be true, it usually is, and sadly I think his offer reeks of bullshit. That being the case, perhaps you should look upon the experience as both a warning and a lucky escape? After all, by the sounds of it, he didn't manage to get any of your money (I certainly hope!), so in that sense you beat him.
I would also gently suggest that you should not allow one bitter experience to colour your overall enjoyment of this hobby. Yes, you should definitely spend within your means, and only on things that you genuinely want, and only if you are not compromising your mental health and general well-being. If your collecting is in control of you, then stop. However, providing you are firmly in control of it, not the other way round, there's no reason why you cannot continue to enjoy collecting. I do suggest that you follow the good advice given in this thread and learn your subject and don't rush or panic-buy your way forward, and you should have many years of enjoyment ahead of you.
Lightening the subject somewhat, one thing in your post above caught my eye. Whilst I don't doubt the person that PM'd you on RS what trying to scam you, you do say that for the first 12 on 45A's and the Palitoy VCJ you 'never received any pictures'. That kind of implies that he might just possibly have sent you pictures of the other items he claimed to have for sale. My guess is that he never sent you any pictures at all of course, as I doubt he had any of the things he claimed, but if there's even a small chance that he did send photos of the first 12 figures on 30 Back cards, then please share them! They are incredibly rare and it would be great to see them