Unfortunately this is now turning into the Josh show isn't it.
Josh (as I guess you are still lurking), if you want your donation back for Ed's gift I would be more than happy to send it back to you - just let me know and I will cover it, I do appreciate you taking part but you have turned this into a complete downer and for once you really have to stop for a minute and look at how this looks to everyone else but you.
You send Shawn a petty and out of order angry rant about not being thanked, just look at what you wrote:
Hey Mate.
Just curious about Ed's parcel on SWFUK. Wasn't there a note in there saying who chucked in for him? I cannot believe there wasn't if this is the case. WTF is that all about?
Your initial PM should have stopped here, you were asking about a note and Shawn would have told you there was one and your question would have been answered but you went on to say:
If that is the case, it will be the last time I throw money down for anything like this. I have lost count of how many things I have chucked in on now to make someones day, and not had so much as a thankyou privately or in public. Besides the general one given. I realise now why that is.
Ok, so besides the general "thanks so much guys" that I am sure everyone you contributed for said on the various forums you really are or were looking for a personal PM of thanks it seems. If we were to look at each of the people listed on your communication with Shawn you may be able to get your head around WHY they hadn't sat there for hours firing off PM's to people personally.
You have people that lost family members, ended up in hospital for serious issues and in the case of Ed his whole world turned upside down and he pretty much needed time out from the hobby to get his head together.
The only thing that is obvious by your initial PM and that is that you may have chipped in to help out but you also wanted that recognition for doing so, which as everyone else here has stated is really not why you help out a fellow collector.
I am totally appalled by this whole scenario. The gift was from his friends...NOT SWFUK and ALL it's members including the tight arses who NEVER throw in for anything like this. And it wasn't meant to make a couple of people look good.
Why were you totally appalled? You didn't even get your answer and you are assuming things that aren't true. You wanting to turn this into a Josh vs SWFUK thing is not fair either, actually yes it WAS a SWFUK thing because it was organised here and at the time of donating you WERE a part of this forum. Your actions got you kicked off afterwards so even if Ed had sent out a blanket PM here you wouldn't have even been able to read it, nor would you have been able to take part in the discussion because you are banned.
Pissed at the momet, Shawnie. Really pissed mate.
Pissed because you assumed that the people that organised it wouldn't chuck in a note saying who chucked in, pissed because you didn't get your thanks, pissed because you got kicked off SWF, pissed because you think certain people do stuff like this to get kudos in the community?
There were 30+ people that took part in this, not one of them PM'd either Ryan, Shawn or myself to ask why they weren't thanked. They all got a thanks from me for sending their donation on (so did you) and they all got a general and honest thank you from Ed in this thread at the start.
Out of all those people you are the only one that kicked off about the entire situation and took it personally enough to start a thread on another board to ask for people's opinions on the matter because you just couldn't let it go? The fact that since Shawn linked it to Ed's gift you have been pretending it had nothing to do with Ed's gift/Thank you is just nuts, your first PM says it all and it is what prompted you to post.
You always talk about honesty and wanting to be around honest people, yet you have just been caught lying in order not to reveal your true feelings, why not just start a thread that said "I just chipped in to Ed's gift on SWF and it is the third time I didn't get a personal thanks, am I overreacting?" It would have still been bad form but it would have been the truth.
Tired of all this back and forth, I am glad at least that Ed is aware of all of this and he has told myself and others that despite all the drama it hasn't taken the shine off of his gift - something I was worried had happened since this came to light.
