lejackal
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So I don't really want to have this on "socials", or start the conversation in the real world so you lucky ****ers get to wade in (or completely ignore things), either way.
Me and Mrs lejackal (but not Mrs, as I've not made her an honest woman) have been together 15 years or so. We've got the kids, the house, the dog etc etc, but no rings, no certificate and no photos that cost thousands. We're not even engaged.
We've spoken about it loosely over the years, but spent maybe five years caring for her dad, so it wasn't really at the top of the list. Probate and all that goes with it took another five and now we're renovating to an extent. We've missed her parents seeing the "big day" (father sadly passed and mother somewhat estranged), but my parents could potentially still at least see their eldest kid do good.
I want to get married, her indoors (jks) wants to (I think), neither want to spunk 20k on it.
We both want something fairly low key, either are religious, but we want close friends to have fun. We both love Oban and the isles, but my parents health potentially precludes using that as a base, equally the **** off and do it on the beach option might be out.
What would you do, or consider? Have a legal and local wedding that infirm parents might get to witness, and then have the friends version elsewhere (or do it the other way around potentially)
Or do something else?
Not the usual light banter I appreciate, but I'd appreciate any thoughts!
Me and Mrs lejackal (but not Mrs, as I've not made her an honest woman) have been together 15 years or so. We've got the kids, the house, the dog etc etc, but no rings, no certificate and no photos that cost thousands. We're not even engaged.
We've spoken about it loosely over the years, but spent maybe five years caring for her dad, so it wasn't really at the top of the list. Probate and all that goes with it took another five and now we're renovating to an extent. We've missed her parents seeing the "big day" (father sadly passed and mother somewhat estranged), but my parents could potentially still at least see their eldest kid do good.
I want to get married, her indoors (jks) wants to (I think), neither want to spunk 20k on it.
We both want something fairly low key, either are religious, but we want close friends to have fun. We both love Oban and the isles, but my parents health potentially precludes using that as a base, equally the **** off and do it on the beach option might be out.
What would you do, or consider? Have a legal and local wedding that infirm parents might get to witness, and then have the friends version elsewhere (or do it the other way around potentially)
Or do something else?
Not the usual light banter I appreciate, but I'd appreciate any thoughts!
